The Life You Save May Be Your Own

Treating others with kindness and respect when they are being overtly hostile may sound like a big mistake. In fact, doing anything else might be the great error. In this post my colleague Matt May MD tells a story that might one day be the story of any one of us – should we share the wisdom and openheartedness Matt so beautifully embodies.

About Daniel Mintie

Daniel Mintie is a cogntive behavioral therapist with 28 years' experience treating PTSD. He teaches CBT at universities and training centers worldwide.

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  1. Kevin Pilsbury says

    Truely a compelling story and reason to practice the Five Secrets. I love how I can still feel the genuine compassion and respect for this man even after all this time has seperated Dr. May from the event. The Five Secrets seem to become more a way of being with others than a communication technique. Beautifully demonstrated. I on the otherhand might have given the window more consideration.

  2. Agnes says

    What a beautiful story Matt! You saved your life but also your patient’s most precious value which was freedom, so close to be lost forever for him. The gain for both of you seems beyond the scale…

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