When someone verbally attacks us, we can disarm the attack by finding and agreeing with the truth in their criticism. As soon as we join an attack on ourselves, the attack ends. We and our attacker are both standing on the same side now: there’s simply nobody left to be attacked. A subscriber to ourContinue Reading: The Martial Art Of Disarming Verbal Attacks
Maria Elena’s First Song
All Things CBT’s 2021 World Championships Of Shame Attacking is attracting A-list talent from around the world. Week-one entries arrived from Canada, Europe, India, Japan and the United States. Pomona Valley California’s Low-Intensity CBT promotoras have stepped forward with entries of their own – and raised the bar for the rest of us (as IContinue Reading: Maria Elena’s First Song
2021 World Shame Attacking Championships
An Old Norse root for the English word shame – kinnroði – denotes “cheek-redness.” Our body as well as our mind protests when we break a rule we have for ourselves, when we do or are something we’ve been telling ourselves we shouldn’t do or be. We may want to continue holding onto rules likeContinue Reading: 2021 World Shame Attacking Championships
Therapeutic Alliance: “Healing through love”
The relationship between a therapist and patient lays the foundation for the work these two can do together. Join my colleague Heather Clague MD and I for a consideration of two key elements of therapeutic alliance: emotional connection and collaboration
Death, Dying And CBT
As a boy I learned a World War I song of the trenches that began “Never laugh when a hearse goes by, for you may be the next die.” The song goes on exhaustively to catalogue the process of human decomposition. My favorite verse was and is “The worms crawl in, the worms crawl out.TheContinue Reading: Death, Dying And CBT